Parents Surprised Babysitter is Upset They Have Been Secretly Recording Her, Wonder if They're Wrong

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    Font - Posted by u/throwaway7394890 2 days ago AITA for setting up baby monitors without telling my babysitter? Asshole (Throwaway account because many of my friends use reddit) I recently hired my friend's 20 year old daughter to babysit my 3 year old son while my husband and I went out of town to celebrate our anniversary. About a month ago my friend mentioned that her daughter was looking for side jobs to save for an apartment, so I hired her to babysit for a couple days. Before she came my h
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    Font - The trip went great, husband and I had a wonderful time and when we occasionally dropped in on the cam to check on our son he looked like he was having fun as well. Friend's daughter was great with him and reported no issues when I called each night to check in on her. Here's where it went downhill. When my husband and I returned home, I mentioned the baby monitors and she asked why I'd put them up. I told her it was just a precaution, in the event our son got hurt we wanted a clear pictu
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    Font - oliver_babish 1 day ago Partassipant [4] YTA. Disclose the surveillance before hiring someone. Not doing so is creepy AF. 686 Reply Share
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    Font - MattiJ 1 day ago YTA - not for putting up cameras, but for not telling her ahead of time so she can decide if she was comfortable being filmed 466 Reply Share
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    Font - ThinEscape511. 1 day ago Asshole Enthusiast [7] YTA. I'd feel a bit violated. If you trust her so much, why not tell her ahead of time that you have cams and for which reason? 342 Reply Share Sea_Information_6134 9 hr. ago . That's what's what I don't get and where I'm confused?? If you trust her that much OP should of had no problem giving her a heads up.(even though she should tell people anyway.) 41 Reply Share
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    Font - Fit-Maize9211.5 hr. ago Partassipant [3]] Exactly this! I have two security cameras in my apartment (I've had break ins) and, when I have a guest who hasn't been here before, I simply mention 'hey I have security cameras to monitor the doors & windows, just wanted to let you know' I've never had an issue with someone reacting poorly to me having the cameras / them being recorded... Probably because I'm upfront about it. People feel violated if they're being recorded without their knowledg
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    Font - Ok-Positive13 - 1 day ago Partassipant [2] YTA. Instead of saying "we have them for safety" you specifically said you had them to watch her as a precaution. I don't think there is a problem having cameras at all, it's just a little jarring to hear after the fact that someone was watching. Next time you have a babysitter just tell them "hey fyi there's cameras here and here & I can check them at anytime I just like to check in!" 209 Reply Share Fit-Maize9211.5 hr. ago Partassipant [3] OP's
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    Font - Used Mark_7911. 1 day ago Asshole Enthusiast [8] YTA - The cameras were fine, not telling her about them was not. She had a a right to know she was being observed and recorded and to decide whether she was comfortable with that. 152 Reply Share
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    Font - ColdForm7729 - 1 day ago YTA for not telling her and letting her decide if she was comfortable with them. Your reasoning does sound like you didn't trust her to keep him safe. 118 Reply Share ... throwaway7394890 OP 2 days ago It's not that I don't think she could keep him safe. He's a toddler, all it takes is a split second for him to hurt himself or get into something he shouldn't. We have the house baby- proofed but toddlers have a knack for getting hurt. I realise now that not telling
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    Font - Excellent Patience 298 1 day ago Certified Proctologist [26] YTA You trust her completely but you don't trust her to tell you what happened if your son got hurt and "you never know". You're the AH just for setting up the cameras. I bet that doing it without letting the babysitter know is actually most likely a crime. ↑ 96 Reply Share
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    Font - Historical-Ad1493 1 day ago Asshole Enthusiast [6] YTA for not disclosing cameras. Or, maybe you and hubby get off watching a young woman in your home? Was she in her underwear, maybe skimpy oh sleep shorts? This is sketchy. She may have to get up at night to check the child, get a drink. It's skeevy. If I was her or her mom, is scotch the earth over potential exploitation of my child. Yes, have cameras. It's smart, but tell those in your home especially I'd they are there overnight. 91 ●

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